The past month of my life have been one of the most beautiful. I have been scared, nervous and on the verge of breaking down. I have felt deeply appreciated, inspired, missed and loved. I have tried to document and share with you all the journey of the past few weeks and I have cherished every single comment you have replied with.
However, today I want to dispel a myth. A misconstrued notion that I am good at doing this. In the past month or so, I have been told several times that I was able to do these things only because I am good at it.
Myth #1 : I am good at moving to new places.
Reality: Nope. I hate moving and leaving people behind.
Myth #2: I am good at meeting new people and networking.
Reality: Believe me I get nervous before every single meeting. I much rather hide under the blanket with a book than go out and meet new people.
Myth #3: I am very comfortable trying new things.
Reality: Not true by any stretch of imagination. I am the same guy who ate the same exact dinner (baked salmon with sautéed bacon and kale ) every day for over 6 months last year, because I liked it and it was easy to make.
Myth #4: The above myths are not necessary.
Reality: They absolutely are!
The only profound thing I can tell you today is that I have accepted the fact that I will not be good at above mentioned things. However, I do them anyway. Couple of years back, I had a realization that I was allowed to suck at things that were essential to succeed in life. To get your name out there, to be heard, to be followed; to be deserving of an audience you have to be an audience yourself first. I learned that I needed to meet more people even if I sucked at it. I realized that I had to expose myself to more ‘peak experiences’ in life to be more confident.
These things that you are not so good at never get easier. I wish I could tell you that it has become very easy for me to be outgoing now as a result of repeating it a hundred times. No, it never gets better. What gets better is you.